These Four Words
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- Feb 24, 2020 12:24 pm GMTJan 7, 2020 3:46 pm GMT
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“I bring you the gift of these four words. I believe in you”
Managing & leading a group of people is not an easy job.
However, people can choose either to make it even more difficult or much less stressful and rewarding.
Say It & Say It Often
Affirmation is the most underutilized and least understood motivational tool at a leader’s disposal.
“I believe in you”
Spoken authentically at the right time, these four words can positively change somebody’s life forever.
Whether it be in your personal or professional life, these four words can move mountains.
They can lead individuals and teams to reach potential beyond expectations.
What They Really Mean
- I trust you.
- You are not alone on this journey. I will be with you every step of the way to support you. Nothing big in life or business is accomplished alone.
- I will not micromanage you.
- I know that you will learn from your failures as well as successes.
- When the storms come, as they will, I will be standing next to you.
- If you fail somebody’s purity exam or experience false accusations, trust me to be at your side.
- Action backs these words. People believe more in what they see than what they hear.
What They Do Not Mean
- These four words are not unconditional. Deep trust and special relationships are fragile gifts that can be quickly unraveled by lies and self-deceit. We make debits in the trust bank daily by our efforts and integrity.
- These four words are not simply moral support.
When They Matter the Most
- At the beginning of a new challenge or assignment.
- After you have been knocked on your butt in the game of life or business.
- When you face a seemingly insurmountable task- a Mt. Everest or Katrina moment.
- When your voice or presence stands alone as the minority.
The Cure for Failure
Top 4 reasons why people & teams fail:
- Lack of confidence
- Lack of motivation
- Lack of commitment
- Lack of trust
A manager makes sure the right people are in the right position on a team.
A leader makes sure that every single person understands why she or he is key to team success.
A great leader never misses an opportunity to cite an example to remind somebody why she or he plays a special role for team success.
“I believe in you” builds confidence, creates motivation, strengthens commitment, and deepens trust.
Servant leaders strive to serve others, rather than accrue power or take control.
Among several, qualities of a servant leader include:
- Commitment to the growth of others
Perhaps nothing says “I believe in you” louder than giving somebody an opportunity. Nobody assumes a new position without some level of inexperience and private doubt.
Commitment to the growth of others means much more than simply giving them a chance.
It means you have equity in their future.
“You got this kid. I have seen it inside of you and now we are about to show the whole world what you can do. You are gonna shock the world and achieve all of your potential.”
Less Stress = More Rewards
I believe great leaders delegate with ease and for purpose.
They understand that you gain power when you share power.
Great leaders own the confidence to step back and let others cook dinner. They tend to stay out of the kitchen at meal time.
Any great teacher or coach will tell you that making a positive difference in somebody’s life is far more rewarding than all the money and titles.
Making the positive difference in life is the fuel that gets you through your personal Katrina/Mt. Everest moments.
“I believe in you”
Look somebody straight in the eyes when you deliver the greatest gift of all time.
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